Moms spend far too much time comparing themselves with others. That kind of thinking can only result in feelings of either inferiority or superiority. There is no ideal mom because God directs us differently based on what is best for our(His) children.
Know that God has you in this season for a purpose and he has NOT forgotten about you. He sees every nose you wipe and every diaper you change and, ironically, your service is a fragrant offering to Him.