You Were Never Meant to Have It All Together
After hanging my DIY Peony Wreath on my front door, I was so pleased with how the pink peony blooms contrast with my hardwood door.
I stood there for a minute admiring my wreath until a little voice in my head whispered, “Your front door looks great. Too bad the rest of your house is a mess.” You know that voice. She’s quick shame you the moment you don’t feel like you have all your ducks in a row.
I also hear this voice saying things like…
“When I have my social media plan figured out, then I’ll really be a serious blogger.”
“When I lose a few pounds, then I’ll finally be happy with my appearance.”
“Once I can write posts as fast as she can, then I will be ‘doing it right.'”
All of these statements assume that what I’m doing now doesn’t count…that I’m not really living life until I “have it all together”.
But can let you in on a little secret?
“Having it together” doesn’t really exist. Perfection is a mirage that keeps disappearing into the distance every time you take a new step toward it.
In reality, no one has it all together and no one is “killing it“. We are all struggling in some way or another. No one has it all figured out.
As a recovering perfectionist, I’m learning that perfection doesn’t exist apart from Christ. And “living up to your fullest potential” doesn’t exist apart from surrendering our lives to Him. The good news is that we don’t have to be perfect because He already is.
God isn’t all that concerned about you “having it all together”. Instead, He’s more concerned about our relationship as He wants us to rely on Him. He wants me to give Him my burdens – each and every one, no matter how small.
He wants us to live lives where we trust Him with the outcomes of our problems, even if the journey is a little messy.
Our role is to abide in Christ so He can live through us. Only through relying on his strength and power, can we “have it together.”
“I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I now live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.” – Galatians 2:20
Because of Christ bearing the ultimate burden on the cross – we have the freedom to live lives where we cast all our burdens on Him. As a Christian, you are NOT designed to “have it all together”. But through grace, you ARE designed to rely on the only one who does.
NO ONE has it all together.
Each of us is growing. All of us are in process as we are being transformed to be more and more like Him.
Today you have a choice, my friend. You can either strive to be the perfect version of yourself (which doesn’t really exist) or you can lean hard into your Creator, relying on Him to live His life through you.
Stop waiting until you become that perfect version of yourself to really live life. Instead, enjoy the abundant life God longs to help you experience in Him.
“I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.” John 10:10b
To make your own wreath, be sure to check out this tutorial: DIY Peony Wreath On A Budget
Karin Peters is a DIY expert and the creator of Renovated Faith. She is a furniture painter, a home design consultant, and a tenacious problem solver determined to help you transform your house into a home. With 17 years of experience with DIY home improvement, she researches and analyses professional processes to adapt them to be easy and cost-effective for DIYers. She then tests every project and product before it appears on the site in a detailed, step-by-step format. After attending Texas A&M University, she received her Master of Divinity with Biblical Languages at Southwestern Baptist Theology Seminary. Her passions unite in Renovated Faith, which shows readers how to create a home that serves them so they can pursue their God-given purposes. About Renovated Faith | Editorial Policy | Facebook | Twitter | LinkedIn
Thank you, Karin, for your post. I too struggle with perfectionism. I struggle with comparing myself and my home to others. I am learning to lean on Christ to help me.
I enjoy your post and the DIY ideas.
With fondness
Yes, needs to hear that. Thanks
Thank you for this message! I am passing these great words of wisdom on to others.
It was a long time ago now, but the music leader- the most anointed sister I ever knew- had to be absent from our rather large prayer meeting and I was next in line to take over. I was sick at the thought of it, making Jesus look bad, squelching the anointing, on and on. I was a self taught guitar player. As I was driving to the meeting, I had the radio on a local station but was praying for help. Suddenly the refrain of the familiar song seemed to be louder than the noise in my head, and the words of the the refrain:
“ You don’t have to be star, baby, to be in my show!” It was a Paul McCartney song. To this day, I know God was delivering me from fear, and I had great fun worshipping Him at the prayer meeting! Every time I fail at something, I remember Him singing that song to me!
That’s an amazing story Marybeth. What a great message from Him just for you! Thank you so much for sharing that with me!
Thanks! I needed this!
Thank you for the wise words so gently spoken today. It is exactly what I needed to hear in the midst of getting ready for another really packed school year.